Society: Have we forgotten to be human?
In 2003, when I was about 4 years old, life felt beautiful. Neighbours were like an extended family with clear boundaries and mutual respect. We celebrated every festival together—Diwali, Holi, and especially Ganapati. I guess, being a Maharashtrian has its perks 😊. Over time, social media and growing materialism changed this close-knit mentality; now people often focus more on taking than on giving. I believe true happiness comes from giving, not just taking, but I also see a need for balance: you can't keep pouring into cups that refuse to pour into yours or don't even meet you halfway there.
Have we forgotten to be human? Society has become dysfunctional to the point where everything has been normalised. Dating has become just an experience so that you know “what you want finally”. Sex, a commodity. Attachment is being crucified to a level where people start calling it toxic patterns. Co-dependency in relations has become a myth, and it has been crucified to an extent where finding partners who understand each other and want to become better for each other has become difficult. One of the biggest reasons for such mentality and mindsets is that we as people are now surrounded by “abundance”. In the older days, when dating apps weren’t a thing, a human connection was a treasure. Someone to talk to. Someone to wait for. Someone who understood you for who you are and who actually wanted to be better for you.
Now, when scarcity doesn’t exist, we look out for alright, what’s next, what’s better? Who could fill these voids in me that I have created myself by always jumping to the next better thing? When did supporting your partner become, “oh no, we are different people”? When did financial stability become a moral virtue, while emotional stability remained optional and largely ignored? I guess, because numbers are easier to measure than self-awareness. It's surprising to see people crave for freedom, love and that longing for someone in their life, but the moment that freedom required discipline or that love required consistency, transparency and self-governance, they panicked and withdrew. Said, I am tired of this. I cannot do this anymore. Love isn’t enough. Absolutely, LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH. What comes with it is respect, loyalty, shared effort, empathy and the biggest ability, the ability to FORGIVE and come back to each other. Love and choice are not two different things. Love is a choice you make every single day! I read this somewhere: if you can't do long distance, you probably won't work out in the same city 😊, took me back to when my mom and dad were apart for two years when dad was settling down in Chennai, and mom supported him through and through. A different kind of love indeed. The foundation of this was certainly respect. Unfortunately, people don’t choose partners; they choose comfort. Love asks for effort. Convenience, on the other hand, asks for nothing because it feels safe. No tough questions, no emotional responsibility, no real investment. Just enough connection to not feel alone…but never truly to grow. Love, on the other hand, requires courage – to communicate, to be seen, to show up even when it's uncomfortable. Most aren’t ready for that work. So they call it “compatibility issues”, when in reality it is just a lack of willingness. Painful truth: You can't build a meaningful relationship with someone who only chooses you when it's convenient 😊.
Well, sometimes I feel I never fit in this generation of constantly moving to the next best thing. Always taught to make the best out of what I have on my plate. Never taught to compare and see what's better, but instead how can I be better? And what can I do to make this a safe space?
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